IT'S THE TIME OF THE MONTH..BUT CAN I STILL HAVE SEX?

So you decided to have a go at one of your fantasies and actually have sex during your lady's period. Next thing on your mind is probably the biggest question: is it safe?

Believe it or not, the answer is "yes". As long as you don't mind the mess, sex during menstruation is safe. Let me rectify that: about as safe as it can be expected. Blood is a medium in which certain infectious agents multiply, so you might want to consider that before starting. Also, the chance of getting HIV is probably sky-high with all that blood around. Better use a condom if you are not sure of yourself or your partner. Still, there is no medical reason why a mutually monogamous couple (which is also free of STDs) should not have sex during menses.

But if you are not scared by these problems, then you can go right ahead. Of course you should wait for your lady to get over the worst days of her period, if you want sex to be any fun that is. The best idea is to spread a towel on the bed in order to keep the blood off the sheets, preferably a black or dark red towel. You can try any position you want, but your best bet is to stay on top and have the lady below. This should limit the flow of blood a little. The lady could also put to good use a diaphragm or a menstrual cup in order to keep the blood in, at least for a while.

The biggest risks brought by sex during menstruation are an increase in the risk of pelvic infections and HIV (because the opening of the cervix widens) and also a higher risk of pregnancy. Yep, you read that right: pregnancy. Just because your lady is having her period does not mean that you cannot get her pregnant. It's rare, I'll grant you that, but it did happen quite a few times.

Have fun and stay safe.

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MY EROGENOUS ZONE

Since the body of a woman is one of the most delightful things in a man's life, it is only natural that men should want to be more curious about what spots must be touched to drive a woman wild with desire. The erogenous zones are areas of the female and male bodies that have heightened sensitivity. Stimulation of these areas usually results in sexual response, although not every individual responds in the same way to the stimulation of all erogenous zones.

Some of the erogenous zones of the female body, such as the neck and the inner thighs, are well known from the popular literature. Others, such as the feet and the buttocks, are seen as belonging rather to the fetish group by certain people. However, we shall review them all here.

The feet: The feet are a good place to start and learning about the power of touch over a woman's sensitive areas. Many women like to have their toes tickled, licked and sucked on lightly. Yes, this does sound like a brave thing to do for many men, but many guys actually enjoy it. Moving up we find the back of the knees, which is an area featuring a high number of nerve endings. This means that the skin is very sensitive to touches and kisses. Further up still are the inner thighs, one of the most popular erogenous areas. Kiss them lightly, bite them lightly and caress to your (and hers) heart's content. Women will love it. At the top backside of the feet are the buttocks, another sensitive area and most women like to have it caressed. If you want to make her sizzling hot, you can also try kissing and licking and I'm sure most guys would not mind if it led to a little anal sex.

The nape of her neck and the ears. These two are a powerful combination and are usually the place to start the foreplay. Kissing, licking, caressing and massage work wonders on the most sensual part of her neck, while gently nibbling her ears will maker her hot and show you are a sophisticated lover at the same time.

The big three. And finally we come to the big three erogenous zones everybody knows about (which reminds me about that story of a German couple who did not have kids because they had no idea they were supposed to have sex, nor any idea what sex was). The big three are the lips, the breasts and the vagina/clitoris area. Kisses, caresses, licking, touching and fondling are not only highly recommended, but actually a must for any man who wants to experience the good things in life. And keep in mind that it pays to learn about both what makes your lady go over the edge with pleasure and the way to get her there.

Have fun and stay safe.

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WHAT IS CUNNILINGUS?

Although nearly every man who leaves his house on a regular basis in order to socialize knows at least one slang term to describe the act of sexual stimulation of the clitoris and vagina by using the mouth and tongue, not many men are familiar with the term cunnilingus. Others have no idea why fellatio is different from cunnilingus and what these two terms mean. However, it should be noted that such words are not used outside the medical community.

Cunnilingus is a form of oral sex by which the vagina is stimulated with the lips and tongue. The term itself comes from two Latin words: cunnus, which designates a woman’s genitals, and lingus, which means “to lick”. The basic technique is to gently lick, kiss or suck on the clitoris, the labia and the vaginal area. In practice, it’s up to the man to decide how to make the lady squirm with pleasure, although he is supposed to take the lady’s suggestions into account.

Many men base their views about cunnilingus on what they’ve seen in pornographic movies and stories. Unfortunately, a porno movie director does not have the money or film time to let the actors stage a proper cunnilingus and so the male star usually goes right for the woman’s clitoris. This is not a good idea because the clitoris is an extremely sensitive organ and should not be approached directly. More so if the woman in question is not fully aroused. Most times it’s preferable to begin cunnilingus with a gentle stimulation of the entire genital area.

Oral sex features the same huge number of variations and techniques as intercourse or anal sex, depending on what the two lovers like and dislike. The best way to go about it is to use your the lips and tongue freely and either deducing from your partner’s response what works best or asking the lady to guide you. If she likes what you’re doing, keep on doing it. If she is uncomfortable and not any closer to orgasm, you might want to change tactics.

Don’t be afraid to use your fingers to get better access to the clitoris or vagina. Don’t be shy to use sex toys. You could try to insert a finger in the vagina or into the anus while stimulating the clitoris with your tongue. These kind of erotic games please ladies no end and can be easily made part of the sex life of any couple, regardless of sexual orientation. Some people tend to think that oral sex is a practice restricted to the gay community, but they are very wrong. Any couple can use oral sex as part of the foreplay or even as a replacement for the main course of the night.

Cunnilingus is a sexual act that does not lead to pregnancies and it’s also considered much safer than both vaginal and anal intercourse. Although many people are not pleased with the thought of oral sex because they worry about diseases or germs which could be passed on from the vagina to the mouth. However, the risk is actually very low, especially since any germ or disease picked up during oral sex would have been picked up through intercourse anyway.

SHE IS ANNOYED AT YOU IN BED?

She is annoyed at you in bed. You feel you are making all the right moves. She says you are too tame in the sack. You feel you are not staifying her needs.

The deal

A man's ego is hardwired to his penis. "If he can feel a strong erection, then he's powerful. That's why impotence is dreaded so much". Some men give up trying to the dismay of their partner and turn sullen about it.This feeling of inadequacy then goes on to affect his work.

"That lack of confidence in bed transfers over into all other aspects of life because the emasculation he feels, questions his maculinity,"

Change your perceptions. You must be doing something right if she is still with you. Sit yourself down for an hour and ask yourself difficult questions like :

Where are all these fear and insecurities coming from?

Write down your thoughts, or if you feel comfortable enough, talk to someone or a therapist or read for advice